In the past 6 months I have had several friends lose a child. The ages of these children have ranged from small infant to young adult, and the causes have varied as well.
The loss of a loved one is never easy, but I think it is especially hard to lose a child. We have watched them come into this world, grow and discover things for the first time. In all the thoughts and dreams we have for our children, planning their funeral never enters the mind.
And yet it happens.
The answer is simple, but not very comforting:
We don’t know.
I wish I could give you some great answer that would help it all make sense.
But I can’t.
But here is what I can tell you from watching my dear friends walk this hard road:
God is still good.
The questions fly: “Why would God let this happen?” “Why didn’t God stop this?” The reality is,
God lost His Son too.
We live in a world that is really messed up. Lots of really bad things are happening all over the world.
But this is not how it was meant to be.
God made everything perfect. And it was really good.
But people make mistakes, people screw up.
And now the world we live in is very not perfect.
Now really bad things happen.
And it hurts.
But God has a plan and is working things out.
One day at a time.
I have watched my sweet friends stand with beauty and dignity as their hearts were heavy with hurt.
They hold on to the God, Who never meant for them to have to go through this.
They hold on to the God, Who has felt the pain of losing a child.
They. Hold. On.
I have learned a lot from my dear friends. And I am honored to have walked by their side down this hard road.
I pray that in whatever pain you are going through and in whatever hurts that you have, that you would hold on tight to God and that He would bring you comfort.